When you have a DTR, you and your potential boyfriend/girlfriend talk about what stage the relationship is in, and where it's going. These obviously can be a little awkward, disappointing, or in the best situations, exciting and romantic conversations. Well, I don't really have much experience with this myself, but I came up with a scale anyway to help people "define the relationship" just because I like psychology and numbers, and putting them together is even better. So, here goes. :)
1. Interested as a person- no relationship
2. Just friends/acquaintances
3. Close friends
4. Close friends with dating interest
5. Interested
6. Singular interest
7. Want to be boyfriend/girlfriend
8. Want to write a song about them
9. Want to have a future together
10. Want to marry
As the scale goes up, the commitment and interest level goes up as well. To avoid awkward situations it is best that you are never more than two steps ahead of your partner in either acting on or desiring a higher relationship level. These steps usually progress from 1-10 as time progresses, and I personally think a healthy relationship should go through every step before moving up the scale, even just for a short amount of time. For example, when dating I wouldn't want to date someone I had just met that already seemed like they had a level 5 interest in me, when I was still at level 1 or 2.
If you gauge that your interest in a person, or your desire for a relationship is of a higher level than theirs, then SLOW DOWN. Focus on the previous steps, make sure the interest you have in that person has progressed through every level. If they still aren't at the same level as you, it's time to evaluate if this person just needs time to catch up or if this relationship is better to let die. You deserve someone that will be at the same interest level with you.
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